When I’m with Mom I’ve been able to slip into the present and ask, “What does Mom need right now?” A favorite question I used to ask my kindergarteners comes to mind: “What do you notice?” On a practical level, I notice that Mom doesn’t look comfortable propped up in her wheelchair, especially when she slumps to the side and falls asleep. She needs a morning nap time in her bed, something I can advocate for her.
I also notice that Mom likes to look at me and hold my hand. She doesn’t speak any more, nor respond to the questions I write out for her, but I have the sense that Mom likes company. I can provide that for her.
I thank everyone for their prayers during this time